INFATUATION

Isn’t it a crazy thing?

It is so easy to meet someone, become infatuated with them and spend all of your time with them or talking to them or even thinking about them.

But what happens when that ends?

What now?

So just over a year ago an old friend and myself got close out of the blue one day, we became romantically involved and next thing I knew, he was on my mind 24/7. Things didn’t quite work out and we haven’t been in contact for about a month now. Now normally I’d sit here and tell you how much I feel like my life is missing something and I’m dying to talk to him and be close to him again.

Unfortunately or fortunately (depending how you look at things), I don’t want to talk to him. I don’t particularly miss talking to him or spending time with him. I’m not going to make my post all about that (I’ll save that for another day), but my point is- is I don’t feel like I’m missing anything.

How can we have such a great infatuation with someone or something and when it leaves our lives, we just go on without it or them?

When I got a message from him I nearly always smiled and one of my more frequent thoughts was “I don’t know what I’d do without him”. Well, I am without him and… I’m still alive and kicking. I couldn’t imagine myself without him in my life and… he’s not? Isn’t it bizarre how I’m just getting on with it when a month ago I was talking to him every minute of every day?

This post isn’t a meaningful one, its literally just me- thinking.

We can spend time practically obsessed with someone and be just as fine without them.

MY FOODIE WEEKEND

Morning all,

So today I want to tell you about my foodie weekend.

Friday – was my last day in Bournemouth! I decided to treat myself to some food from the hotel cafe and I must say- it was really rather tasty. I ordered a burger topped with chilli and some chips. Here it is:

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I then took a nice long stroll to the train station, passing the beach and all the shops on Bath Road. Luckily for me it didn’t snow in Bournemouth but it snowed in London so I was rather chuffed with that!

Saturday – I had arranged to meet up with my friend L. We had decided we were going to go to Bromley for something to eat. It was local and reasonably priced so we headed there and went on the hunt for food. We both had a craving for some Italian food… there were a couple of places and we decided on Ask Italian. For our starter we ordered (to share)

WHY DO THEY KEEP GOING BACK?

Good avo,

(No I’m not Australian but I did say that in an Aussie accent.)

Why do people who are unhappy in their relationships keep going back to their partner?

This is a genuine question that I don’t understand…

I know, I know its easier said than done and of course love is a huge factor but I just don’t get it. I know a handful of people who constantly complain about their other halves and how terrible they are – yet they get back with them. Why?

As I said, I know love is a huge factor and honestly we all know how important love is for a successful relationship. But unlike Disney movies, love doesn’t solve everything. If you can’t spend a minute away from your partner without suspecting them of talking to someone else or cheating… how do you expect to have a healthy relationship? If you can’t spend an hour with them without arguing, how do you expect to progress in your relationship?

Relationships are partnerships and they involve things such as compromise and sacrifice. I realize that statement sounds way more dramatic than it actually is.

The reason for this post is because a few of my friends AND family have told me repeatedly about their relationship problems, to which I am very receptive, empathetic and supportive. However, spending hours talking to them and convincing them to do what they want (moving on) only for them to do the opposite and get back with their partner, can be and quite frankly – IS very frustrating.

Now I have two very close people to me D and L and they have both told me that I get ‘too invested’ in other people’s problems and I have a tendency to make other peoples problems my own. Maybe I DO get too involved? Maybe when people come to me for relationship advice I should say “Do whatever you want”. After all I’m hardly an expert in relationships – I’ve been single for well over 3 years and I don’t see any potential for a boyfriend *rolls eyes*.

It just bothers me that I see my close friends and family self sabotaging themselves, my friend L was in a similar situation a couple of years ago and only after she removed herself she realized how toxic the relationship was.

At the end of the day no matter how much good advice you give someone, if they don’t want to listen – they won’t!

Rant over!

Speak soon

Chants x

NEW YEAR, NEW ME

That is what they say isn’t it? New year, new me?

Well its’s definitely a new year… but am I a new me? I don’t really think so, after all I feel the same… but the blogging is definitely a new thing. I’m not really sure how to do it? Do I just write and hope someone reads it?

So far this year I haven’t actually taken any photos. Which is odd for me as I am usually the ‘photographer’, I haven’t taken a single selfie or even a photo of any of my friends. Actually- as I’m writing this I just remembered my friend T took a picture of me the other day! I’ll obtain it from him and add it to this post…

Right here:

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I think over time you’ll get to know me better and how odd but strangely normal I am. I’ll talk a lot about my family and friends, because after all they have the biggest impact in my life.

The majority of people I know didn’t enjoy 2016. Which is fair, but I personally had quite a good year. I rebuilt relationships and reconnected with old friends, I attended 5 weddings, I went to 3 new countries, I got a car, I moved home, I got a better job, got closer with some family members and I made NEW friends. So it wasn’t bad for me, of course there were bad days but thats a story for another day.

If I had a glass i’d raise it in a toast to my new blogging adventure, unfortunately I don’t so I’m going to eat a brownie instead. Mind you, not sure its the best idea seeing as its 11:30pm on a Sunday night and I have work tomorrow at 9am. Meh.

Speak soon

Love Chants x